Should We Conquer Our Fears?

This is what the dictionary tells you about fear.

Fear (n.); an unpleasant emotion or thought that you have when you are frightened or worried by something dangerous, painful or bad that is happening or might happen.

This is what, in my eyes, fear actually is.

Fear is an emotion or thought that warns you. The Human experience of fear is a result of stressors, hormones, and processing by our brains and nervous system. Watch out for that big truck or you might get overrun! Don’t get close to that spider because it might attack you! As you can conclude from these examples there is often a ‘might’ when you are talking about why you fear something, simply because we can never be sure.

 

Without fear life would be far more dangerous. People would take risks without even calling it risks because they don’t even risk. They’re just doing it, and whatever that it may mean, they are not afraid of it.

A world full of options will open up if you conquer every single one of your fears, but is that really worth it? Are we humans supposed to conquer our fears or are these fears in our lives for a reason?

If we’d conquer every single fear life would be far more boring. There wouldn’t be such things as adrenaline anymore. Rollarcoaster rides would be stupid because the tiny bit of fear inside of you will be gone.

We humans aren’t the only creatures who fear. Animals fear just as much as we do, and we know it. We’ve proven it through tests and sometimes it’s more than obvious to see that an animal is scared. So if they fear, why shouldn’t we? Are we really that different from animals at all? I don’t think so.

According to nowadays theories the human was either created by nature or by God. And guess what? Animals have been created by either of those just as well. Maybe most of them don’t have a working mind like we do, but they have many other specialties. Don’t you believe me?

Let’s start with the fish the salmon. These creatures have some sort of GPS in their minds because these fish can sense the Earth’s magnetic field and this will help them get home! Can we do that? Sure some of us have a good orientation but if something dropped us in the middle of nowhere, we could never ‘feel’ which way home was!

Bombardier beetles are next up on my list of pretty amazing animals. These beetles can trigger an internal chemical reaction that will create a boiling jet to expel towards their enemy! How sick is that?! Can we humans do a thing like that? No. The only thing we can shoot towards people we don’t like are farts, and they are not that special now are they?

And then we have this sick horned lizard. This little guy can shoot blood from it’s eye! Ew, gross yes I know but isn’t that amazing at the same time. (I don’t recommend that you search such videos of this animal because it’s pretty gross looking actually but that is not the point). The lizard can aim as good as a sharp-shooter and it will scare it’s enemies away.

And let’s not forget the Turritopsis Jellyfish! These cute jellyfishes can somehow make themselves young again and begin their life cycle over and over! How sick is that? Imagine us humans being able to do that!

Last, but secretly my favorite, the mantis shrimp. This little guy is first of all the most shiney and beautiful sea-animal I have ever seen but second of all, his abilities are amazing! You know how a human has 3 color-receptive cones. We have a green, red and blue cone which allows us to see thousands of mixed colors. But now imagine how the mantis shrimp would experience the world, as instead of 3 color-receptive cones he has 16! He can see colors that we never have and never will experience nor imagine. Isn’t it weird how we simply cannot imagine what those colors would look like?

Now I surely must’ve convinced you that there are way more interesting creatures than us humans. And honestly, I wandered a bit off topic but I just wanted to tell you these amazing facts. Back to the topic.

Fear is a big ‘what if’ that helps us remind the consequences of certain deeds. Should we really conquer these emotions so that we can go live a life without any tension?

Fear Of Missing Out

This one is to the girl that felt lonely every day, all day long. To the boy who was called out as nerd. To the girl who was best friends with the hottest girl from high school and even to the boy who seemed to have a good life.

At a sudden point, I think we all feel left out. Maybe it’s because you feel like you truly don’t belong, or maybe it is because you are literally left out. Let me give you an example for this.

Josh has 3 best friends, 5 good friends and 4 friends. On a certain evening all 3 of Josh’s best friends, and two of his good friends go out for dinner. But Josh is not invited to join them. Josh feels left out because he seems to be the only one who isn’t invited. But that’s not the case.

Melissa is one of the good friends of Josh, who isn’t invited either. She has 1 best friend, and two good friends. Her best friend and a good friend of her are both invited for the evening out, but she isn’t. Melissa feels left out and starts doubting if her friends even like her. But that’s not the case.

The point of this example is to give you the realization that everybody has a different point of view in such situations. Yeah, maybe some of your friends didn’t invite you to come but that doesn’t mean they don’t like you. They simply made plans when you weren’t there, so be it. If you feel lonely and left out because of that, then search for other friends to do things with.

The reason I chose this subject for a blogpost for today, was because my best friend seemed to be very sad lately. She often complains about how she’s uninvited for things even though, in my point of view, I’m the one who is often left out. The difference between her and me, is that she actually tries to join this group of people in the end.

I find this somehow rude. Sure, they might be your friends but if they made plans and you weren’t invited, it means that they just wanted this group of people to hang out with. Sure, they won’t mind if you join them, but I just think that sometimes you have to let things happen. I can’t really give any good arguments for it.

When I get left out, I often find myself curled up in my bed, watching Youtube to waiste my time as I secretly think about how I would’ve wanted to be invited. You see, I don’t like missing out on things. Whenever my parents leave for the mall, I want to join because I don’t want to miss anything. I want to be everywhere and always because I want to have a laugh.

Here are a few quotes of Connor Franta, by whom I found out about FOMO. FOMO stands for Fear Of Missing Out and means as it says.

We’ve all tasted it, especially on those weekend nights when you’ve chosen to stay in and then see your friends post on social media about their fun evening out, and you squirm with jealousy.

 

There have been instances when I’ve spent more time worrying that I’m missing out on something than actually enjoying what’s right in front of me.

 

Life should be more about living in the moment than fearing what’s happening outside it. It’s about honoring what you want to do at any given time, regardless of what everyone else is doing.