This one is to the girl that felt lonely every day, all day long. To the boy who was called out as nerd. To the girl who was best friends with the hottest girl from high school and even to the boy who seemed to have a good life.
At a sudden point, I think we all feel left out. Maybe it’s because you feel like you truly don’t belong, or maybe it is because you are literally left out. Let me give you an example for this.
Josh has 3 best friends, 5 good friends and 4 friends. On a certain evening all 3 of Josh’s best friends, and two of his good friends go out for dinner. But Josh is not invited to join them. Josh feels left out because he seems to be the only one who isn’t invited. But that’s not the case.
Melissa is one of the good friends of Josh, who isn’t invited either. She has 1 best friend, and two good friends. Her best friend and a good friend of her are both invited for the evening out, but she isn’t. Melissa feels left out and starts doubting if her friends even like her. But that’s not the case.
The point of this example is to give you the realization that everybody has a different point of view in such situations. Yeah, maybe some of your friends didn’t invite you to come but that doesn’t mean they don’t like you. They simply made plans when you weren’t there, so be it. If you feel lonely and left out because of that, then search for other friends to do things with.
The reason I chose this subject for a blogpost for today, was because my best friend seemed to be very sad lately. She often complains about how she’s uninvited for things even though, in my point of view, I’m the one who is often left out. The difference between her and me, is that she actually tries to join this group of people in the end.
I find this somehow rude. Sure, they might be your friends but if they made plans and you weren’t invited, it means that they just wanted this group of people to hang out with. Sure, they won’t mind if you join them, but I just think that sometimes you have to let things happen. I can’t really give any good arguments for it.
When I get left out, I often find myself curled up in my bed, watching Youtube to waiste my time as I secretly think about how I would’ve wanted to be invited. You see, I don’t like missing out on things. Whenever my parents leave for the mall, I want to join because I don’t want to miss anything. I want to be everywhere and always because I want to have a laugh.
Here are a few quotes of Connor Franta, by whom I found out about FOMO. FOMO stands for Fear Of Missing Out and means as it says.
We’ve all tasted it, especially on those weekend nights when you’ve chosen to stay in and then see your friends post on social media about their fun evening out, and you squirm with jealousy.
There have been instances when I’ve spent more time worrying that I’m missing out on something than actually enjoying what’s right in front of me.
Life should be more about living in the moment than fearing what’s happening outside it. It’s about honoring what you want to do at any given time, regardless of what everyone else is doing.